two years // seven years

in the middle of this month of gratitude i wanted to take a special minute to express my gratitude for my marriage. no it is not perfect. but it does have it’s perfect moments. & this weekend was one of them. when we are able to step back from our chaotic lives & just look each other in the face and find each other again, it is the greatest feeling in the world. the card brian got me this year sums up what we really believe you should have in a marriage // “love can’t always move mountains or change the world overnight. but it can open its arms at the end of a long, bad day and welcome you home to true belonging” // our anniversary is a chance to celebrate the things about each other that we know we can count on – deep friendship, real love & steady commitment to our home and family. it is a cherished day where we can truly re-focus on each other. it mentally recharges us. it makes us realize that all the obstacles we have faced the previous 365 days – we overcame together. it makes us wonder why we ever fight. it makes us realize we are two very different people but with a common thread. love. & it makes us wish we could never leave the moment. the space & time where we are just two kids in love again. i hope that whenever we hit a bump in the road we can take ourselves to this place. & that we can always find our way back to each other’s arms. i love you bri.

and i hope the next 365 days {and beyond} i can be a good partner to you. that i can love more, laugh more. forgive more.

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

the art of marriage’ wilferd arian peterson

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